The Four Styles of Parenting

Dismissing Parent-Disapproving Parent
Permissive Parent-Conscious Parent

THE PERMISSIVE PARENT

CHARACTERISTICS

freely accepts all emotional expressions from the child
offers comfort to the child experiencing negative emotions
offers little guidance on behavior
does not teach the child about emotions
does not set limits; is permissive or inconsistent with limits
does not help the child solve problems
does not teach problem-solving methods to the child
believes there is little you can do about negative emotions other than ride them out
believes that managing negative emotions is a matter of hydraulics, release the emotion and the work is done

EFFECTS

Children do not learn to regulate their emotions, they can have trouble concentrating, forming (or keeping) friendships, getting along with other children and respecting others. The pressure to "parent according to other's desires" can lead to an inauthentic connection and a laissez-faire approach to parenting.

A Self-Test: What Style of Parent Are You?
The Heart of Parenting: Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child

The Permissive Parent: Return to My Parenting Style Score
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